One of the reasons I haven't thrown myself headlong into the dating scene is that I feel really self conscious about my lack of experience. Not only do I have very little dating experience, but you can extrapolate that that applies to the bedroom as well. I am not embarrassed of it. I am who I am. But I feel like others will see me lacking in some way, damaged goods somehow. When you reach the age I have, where your body is MUCH different than it was the last time you were single, this adds another wrinkle into an already fear inducing situation. There are classes for everything else under the sun. Where is the Dating and Sex 101 class for those of us out of the game for so long? I can't imagine I am the only one in the world.
Another reason is that I honestly have no idea what I want out of dating. Not at all. I don't know if I can do the strictly casual thing, but I really don't know if I want a full fledged relationship either. Relationships are a ton of work and I just don't know if I have the bandwidth for that right now. I know I worry too much about things, but it is just the way I work. Relaxing and letting things flow is a foreign concept to me.
I also have realized during this whole process of rapid evolution that who I am looking for has changed in a pretty fundamental way. I am just looking for a person that gets me, with all my many quirks and foibles. I am not sure how to label that or if I even can, given that I have only dated the male species up to now. It is just something I am coming to know about myself. It is damn hard to find people that get me and who I feel comfortable sharing myself with. Why would I limit myself to one gender at this point in my life?
So there it is. My messy thought process related to dating. I tend to figure things out best by writing them out. Not sure that I did that with this one, but boy, does it feel good to get some of that off my chest. Anyone else out there like me? Reach out and we can be confused and weird together. Anyone know a sex ed/dating teacher for adults? Send them my way. I could really use one. :) Happy dating to all of us singletons!